Lack of Sensitivity: A Cause of Infidelity
Lack of sensitivity refers to failing to be sensitive to the needs of your spouse. This, my friend, is a major cause of infidelity.
The situations may vary but basically, it could be insensitivity to their need for attention, encouragement or support.
Sensitivity to your husband’s needs, dear sister, demands that you pay attention to his feeding. A man once met my husband and lamented at his wife’s disregard for him and her lack of interest in his life and wellbeing. He pointed out that his wife not only failed to cook for him, she also didn’t know what type of food he preferred to eat.
Do you know your husband’s favorite food? Do you know the way he likes it prepared? Do you even know the way he prefers it to be served? Sensitivity to a man’s needs can close the door to strange women’s infiltration in the home.
Same applies to men: Do you know what makes your wife happy? When last did you spend quality time with her, give her gifts, help her out, speak kind and encouraging words to her and touch her?
There is something vital to be learnt from Jezebel when it comes to being sensitive to your spouse:
“And it came to pass after these things, that Naboth the Jezreelite had a vineyard, which was in Jezreel, hard by the palace of Ahab king of Samaria. And Ahab spake unto Naboth, saying, Give me thy vineyard, that I may have it for a garden of herbs, because it is near unto my house: and I will give thee for it a better vineyard than it; or, if it seem good to thee, I will give thee the worth of it in money. And Naboth said to Ahab, The Lord forbid it me, that I should give the inheritance of my fathers unto thee. And Ahab came into his house heavy and displeased because of the word which Naboth the Jezreelite had spoken to him: for he had said, I will not give thee the inheritance of my fathers. And he laid him down upon his bed, and turned away his face, and would eat no bread. But Jezebel his wife came to him, and said unto him, Why is thy spirit so sad, that thou eatest no bread? (1 Kings 21:1-5 KJV)
When Jezebel came in, Ahab her husband was not happy over an issue. Everyone else was busy and didn’t notice his countenance. She was the only one that noticed that he was not happy and she knew that this was not normal. She looked at the food served and he had not eaten it.
The point of the matter is: She was sensitive to his situation per time.
This is very important but unfortunately, when some women get married, they tend to pay more attention to every other person and thing than to their husbands. They pay attention to children, visitors, their jobs, professions, careers; the television, gossip magazines, fashion hints and church activities, but they forget to give attention to their husband. Note that some men can be so lost in their assignments, jobs or vision that they could even forget to eat, or to eat on time, etc. Please pay attention to your man.
In conclusion, note that Jezebel didn’t just notice that her husband was sad, she enquired after him. She sought to know the reason for his unhappiness. Please make it a lifestyle to frequently enquire about your Spouse’ welfare and excitement.