Hi! Welcome to the last explicit cause of infidelity in this series. I kept it for the last because it is A MAJOR CAUSE of Infidelity. Also, pre-marital sex is a dangerous adventure that leaves an ugly trail of bitter consequences.

I once preached a message titled: “KEEPING THE HEART OF YOUR HUSBAND” and I explained that keeping the heart of your husband is not for selfish reasons, but first and foremost for the sole reason of desiring our husbands to make heaven.

Most of the challenges occurring in marriages today started long before the couples got married; and a root cause of these challenges is pre-marital sex. Premarital sexual relationships gives way to a whole compendium of complications.

Premarital sex causes the defilement of the marital bed and its foundation. And when the foundation is defiled, room is given to the devil to come into that home and cause so much havoc!

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whore mongers and adulterers God will judge.”

 (Hebrews 13.4; KJV)

An honourable marriage is obtainable only when the marital bed is not defiled, where the relationship is founded on purity. The Greek word for undefiled is the word “amiantos” which means to be unsoiled, free from that which deforms the nature of a thing, or free from that which debases or reduces the vigour or force of a thing.

Premarital sex reduces the vigour and force that sustains a marriage, it carries an undermining potential that digs into the foundational fabric of the marriage and like the scripture says in Psalm 11.3: “if the foundations be destroyed what can the righteous do?”  

1 Corinthians 3.11&16-18 also says: “For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ…know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are. Let no man deceive himself…”

A foundation that is destroyed lacks the capacity to hold up any building or construction. It is therefore no surprise that marriages built on such faulty foundations are not able to stand the test of time and in the process, four major areas or foundational pillars are undermined by the defilement. These are:

  • The destruction of mutual love
  • The destruction of mutual respect
  • The destruction of mutual trust
  • The exposure of the couple to a harvest of extra marital affairs.

Any attempt to ignore these consequences can be detrimental to the marriage. Your body is the temple of God and God can never be happy when His temple is defiled.

I will endeavour to explain each of these four foundational challenges listed in tomorrow’s post.